Consider the idea of EVE suddenly being switched off and never being accessible again. Your ISK balance, your skill points, the ships in your hanger, how much space you owned – all gone forever.
What tangible value then did you get from all those hours you spent on the game? How do you define if you came out winning EVE or not?
You can’t use in game measurements – they no longer exist. I think at its most basic level, and common to almost every player, EVE is a game that is meant to entertain. You can define the value of the hours spent in game, and your success at it, on if it provided you amusement and enjoyment.
I had that thought some time ago, and ever since I have defined people who were being entertained by their time in EVE as winning it. It doesn’t matter where they lived in game, what they were doing, how well or not they were doing it, or even if no one else would find it entertaining. It wasn’t tied to ISK, or skill points, or ships owned, lost, or killed. It is instead shown in enthusiasm, curiosity, pleasure, satisfaction, and even contentment.
Maybe if you want to win at EVE, you should worry less about what others are doing or saying, and focus more on what pleases you.