I am not by nature a particularly resilient person. I suffer anxieties, an unhealthy dose of pessimism, have more empathy than I would like, and am prone to stress with change and conflict.
Instead I have to manufacture my resilience. I try to disarm what it is I must be resilient for. I prepare for situations where I can in advance, doing my best to understand it. I acknowledge and allow for my own shortcomings. I rationalise my reactions, and after taking a deep breath, I consider and improve upon them.
It is more wearisome than just naturally coping with things, but for the most part it works for me.
You need a lot of resilience to play EVE. Some is for obvious reasons – the game environment is harsh and unfair. The rules are not always clear, can change, and are often pushed to the edge and beyond exploit by its players. Your emotions can be played upon by people trying to push you into mistakes or to liberate you from assets or dignity. Even those who should be on your side, in your own corporations, can be difficult to deal with.
There are also less obvious ways in which you need resilience to play EVE. The developer, CCP occasionally makes a hash of things which can leave you pulling your hair out. More than that however – the player group itself can whip up a maelstrom of toxicity on the forums, blogs, news sites, tweets and what not. I cannot overstate just how bad that can get.
I attribute some of my longevity in playing EVE to my lack of natural resilience. I tend to pay attention to the pressures it might place upon me, and don’t take my ability to cope with them for granted.